Whoever you are, your name is now Jessica, and today is both nervous and exciting. Why? You’re meeting Shawn, a guy that Tinder brought to your attention. Your legs and arms are crossed, and your palms keep rubbing the tattoos on your upper arm. Yes, you have tattoos, and now, you’ve become self-aware of the ink in your body.
What’s Shawn going to say about these butterflies flying on my skin?
You reckon they may put him off, so you don a sweater for the rest of the evening. “He’ll see them next time,” you say, as he sits next to you and asks for the menu.
How will he take it, though, when he sees them?
Really, what do men think when a woman’s skin is tatted?
The sight of your tattoos won’t impress low-pressure, laid-back men. However, the adventurous and out-going ones will be obsessed with you.
This article will look at how deep it runs when a man sees an inked woman. If you’re a man, you’d better stick around to know how to treat her and her tatts. Let’s ink this!
What Tattoos Say About A Woman
They’re many opinions out there, but the best place to look is at research.
From psychologytoday.com, men see tattooed women as sexually permissive, ready to give in to any raunchy requests. Sadly, that perception risks offending most tattooed women, if not all of them.
A man is more likely to approach you if you’re inked. All the while, they’ll be hoping to get laid just because the dream catcher tattoo is sitting on your upper back.
Waldemar Brandt │UNSPLASH
Still, there are more reasons men will hit on a tattooed girl.
Check these out:
1. Tattooed Women Have High Self-esteem Levels
Getting a tattoo means exploration and adventure, which doesn’t take a shy person. So, men will see the inked women as bubbly, confident, and ready to vibe. The tatt girl won’t worry about anyone or anything, so getting crazy will be a must for them.
2. Also, They Are Not Judgemental
These women have spent lots of time being pointed at because of their ink. Consequently, they develop anti-judgmental skills, thus making their space tension-free. It becomes easier to talk to them because they let things flow naturally.
3. They Have Character Depth
Often, tattoos have meanings, which make them attractive. So, if a woman has many of them, you’re looking at a novel full of stories and far-reaching emotions. By asking them about each tat, you’ll discover how deep their personality runs.
BRUCE DIXON │ UNSPLASH
4. Finally, Tattooed Women Stand Out
Think about a person wearing bright colors in a black wedding–that’s how a tattooed woman looks. If every lady at a party is dressed the same, men will look for distinctions.
They won’t forget Vanessa, the girl who had a flower tattoo on her shoulder.
Med Badr Chemmaoui │ UNSPLASH
Where Do Guys Like Tattoos On A Girl?
Zensa Skin Care did a study looking at how men and women feel about tattoos on each other. They found out that most men like tattoos on women’s:
3. Or upper back
On the flips side, men didn’t like women having ink on their faces and inner lips.
For more, check Zensa’s research findings here.
What Men Should Not Say Or Do To Women With Tattoos
Now, you’re Shawn. It’s the third date, and you’ve just seen Jessica’s tattoos. The sight is rather startling, but you are interested in her body. The issue is you don’t know what to say, and indeed, you don’t want to offend her.
Well, here are some tips, and importantly, the lines you shouldn’t cross:
1. Don’t touch their tattoos without her yessing
Aside from being unsanitary, touching other people is irking. However, if you want to feel a woman’s tatts, ask her.
If she allows it, good, and if she doesn’t, also good. Remember that in the end, there’s nothing more to it than skin and ink.
2. Don’t say that she would look prettier without the tatt
That’s like telling a sightless person that they’d be better without their blindness. And no, that’s not an exaggeration, considering that most tattoos are permanent.
That comment may sound nice in your mind, but it may crush the tattooed women. They think their ink makes them more beautiful, so swallow your words.
3. ‘Couldn’t you have used the money for something else?’
Well, this is an overstretch, and you shouldn’t mind other people’s spending. So, there’s no need to overstep a line because you have ‘better’ places to use your money. They saw it wise and would’ve even paid twice for that dragon-eyed tatt.
4. Don’t talk about how she’ll look when she ages
Everyone gets old, and everyone’s skin wrinkles. So, don’t talk like things will be tragic for her more than they’ll be for you. She’ll be herself, with her tattoos, looking however she wants.
5. Don’t say that she’s kinky just because she’s got a tatt on her thigh
Alora Griffiths │ UNSPLASH
On dating apps, people have normalized seeing tattoos as doors into a steamy conversation. But that shouldn’t be the case, seeing that it offends some women. So, assume nothing.
If you want to talk about sex, pick another angle.
- With all those tattoos, do you even have a job?
The perception behind tattooed people is that they’re reckless. So, asking this question speaks volumes about what you think about people like her. Job or no job, her tattoos have nothing to do with her personality. If you can’t draw the lines, I’m sure you can see yourself out.
Remember that her peace and tats (mostly tats) are more important than your questions.
- Finally, don’t ask about what her parents thought when they saw the tat.
If she’s all grown up, her parents have nothing over her. Also, it may have been a painful discussion, so don’t bring it up. You’ll sound like a grownup who’s questioning her decisions, and that won’t sit well with her.
From the read, you’ve gathered that:
1. Some men dislike tattoos, especially the shyer ones.
2. But, the snappy, spirited ones will want to dive into the ink markings.
3. Unfortunately, some men see a woman’s tattoo as a sexual ding-dong. This may come out as outlandish, and girls will frown upon it.
4. Tatted girls are more than meets the eye. They’re confident, sassy, and adventurous.
5. Most guys don’t like tattoos on women’s faces and lips, but it doesn’t matter much.
6. Finally, men shouldn’t comment or say anything unwelcoming about a woman’s tattoos.
To Jessica, you’re dazzling in your skins, and your tatts look graceful. To Shawn, please don’t say or do anything that may offend her. You know the do’s and don’ts, right? If yes, we’re done!
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