Last Updated on October 16, 2021 by Bob De Generio
It’s a Saturday afternoon, and the entire crew is back at it again. This weekend feels different, though, because two of your friends are hurting from breakups.
Well, they both realized that their partners were cheating. Sorry, Jessica and Shawn.
From studies, men cheat more than women do. The General Social Survey gives this data:
|Gender||% in Cheating (Having Affairs)|
Those numbers represent men and women who’ve admitted to having sex outside their marriage. But, there’s more to that.
1. The number of women cheaters has grown by about 40% in 2019 and compared to 2018.
2. The total number of male and female cheaters is increasing, with online apps contributing to the uptick in infidelity.
3. More men use the apps to get casual sex, while women look for intimacy and attention.
In this article, we’ll talk about cheating worldwide, looking at reasons and how everything happens. In the end, you’ll know to pick out the warning signs when your loved one steps out.
Let’s get it on.
What Nationality Cheats The Most?
Around 51% of Thai adults have admitted to cheating. After the Southeast Asians, here’s how other countries rank:
Data from Durex, the brand of condoms and lubricants
On ethnicity, black people are more likely to cheat (22%) than whites (16%). Also, Hispanics are less likely to cheat than both whites and blacks, with their numbers at 13%.
Why Do People Cheat On People They Love [The Top 4 Reasons]?
Every case of cheating is different, but here are reasons that might motivate your person to get it on with someone else:
1. Hypersexual Behavior
The world has become more sexualized than it was 50 years ago. So, sexual desire rushes in more people, and they’ll do anything to satisfy it. Sexual missteps, like pornography, drive people into wanting more, even when they are in stable relationships.
If someone discovers that their partner cheated, they’ll be stunned and heartbroken. The devastation motivates them to do what could hurt the other person more: cheating back.
3. Distance And Lack Of Attention
If you recently moved away from your partner, they could look elsewhere. Remember that relationships are built on physical intimacy and when that misses, a void forms in the other person. To fill up the space, he could turn to that coworker who recently showed him attention.
4. Issues Of Commitment
Sadly, many people who sit in relationships aren’t sure they want to be there. So, they keep their options open and won’t hesitate when that rush of desire comes.
Do Cheaters Cheat Again [Statistics]
Yes, with chances ranging from 22% to 45%.
In one study, almost half of people who cheated in their first relationship did so in the second one.
But, even though a cheater is more likely to repeat their actions, they’re not destined to. For example, if their new partner meets their needs, they won’t have any reason to run an illicit business on the side.
Or will they?
How Does Cheating (Affairs) Start?
Affairs are nerve-racking, especially to the people who are involved in them. They start as casual interactions, and when opportunity strikes, the cheater jumps in:
It all starts with a message, a call, or a conversation. Such talk creates what experts call an emotional affair. Suddenly, you begin having someone closer to you than your partner is. In such cases, innocent friendships that were probably professional become more casual.
It then moves from frequent conversations to sharing intimacies. You start to share your feelings, especially about your partner’s weaknesses. Simply put, you’ll starve the relationship to feed the friendship.
Finally, it becomes a guilty pleasure, and you live hoping that your significant other does not find out.
What Are The 6 Types Of Affairs (Cheatings)?
1. Sex Affairs
Classically, this is what people have defined as cheating. Most times, people with hypersexual issues will go for this to satisfy their primary instincts. But, if they don’t get ahold of themselves, they could form habits that’ll be devastating to the other person.
2. Distraction Affairs
When dealing with an emergency, grieving, or any form of stress, a person may feel the need to distract themselves. They will do so with the closest person even without realizing it.
3. One-Night Affairs
Other people may argue that one-night stands are sex affairs, but they’re not. They only come about moments of weakness when you’re at a bar or a party. But, however it comes, it’s still cheating and inexcusable.
4. Digital Affairs
Joining a steamy chat on Telegram, WhatsApp, or Facebook is tantamount to cheating. It focuses your sexual energy away from your partner and therefore pushes them away.
5. Emotion Affairs
When a harmless friendship develops into a zone for emotional bubbling, that becomes cheating. Your relationship should provide you total romance, so don’t go around using pet names on other girls or guys.
When you form an emotional bond with someone other than your lover, you intrude on your partner’s space. And if your partner catches wind, they may lose interest in your even if no sex was involved.
6. Double-Life Affairs
This is the most deep-running type because it involves intimacy that’s bigger than the current relationship. For example, it could happen to a woman who feels connected to another man and not his current one. In that situation, the woman will perpetually keep the illicit relationship alive for as long as it takes.
Such kind of an affair often leads to a breakup or divorce.
What Are The Warning Signs Of A Cheating Spouse
If you want to sleep with one eye open, have these points in mind. That way, a cheater won’t escape your close watch:
1. Their Communication Will Sink
Stonewalling is refusing to talk, listen or accept what someone else says. When your partner is involved with someone else, they’ll stop attending to you. Also, they’ll pull out the pet names and sweet words, and soon enough, you’ll be passing days without talking.
2. They’ll Start Spending Hours Away From You
Suddenly, your man or wife will pick a new hobby that doesn’t involve you. They’ll be out more, and when you ask, they’ll give vague explanations. You’ll hear more about a client or a friend, but you’ll never get a chance to meet them.
3. Your Shared Interest Will No Longer Be Mutual
If you two go bowling on Saturday night, your partner will now start giving excuses. They’ll be bored at the mention of it, and they won’t like doing things with you. For example, if you celebrate monthiversaries to remember your relationship, your partner will forget about them and feel nothing.
4. You’ll Start Getting Lies Or Zero Answers
Lying and avoidance is a big red flag. You’ll start discovering that the client your partner talks about never exists and that they’re only avoiding you. Because of guilt, the other person may even start calling you out for cheating. They’ll create a hostile environment where you don’t get answers. If they give you any, it’ll all be lies.
5. The Romance Will Go Down
If you have an active sex life, it will cease to exist. Even if your man or wife warms up with you, you’ll see newer, stranger things coming in. In some cases, you’ll learn that you have an STI, and you never strayed.
6. The Other Person Will Change Their Behavior Around Their Phone Or Laptop
Suddenly, you won’t be able to reach them sometime during the day. Passwords will change, and they will sneak out to pick calls. Also, they’ll clear browser history more frequently, and they may even stop using their social media.
Do You Love Someone If You Cheat On Them?
Yes and no.
It will all depend on the type of affair. Some affairs are temporary and forgivable, but others like the double-life type need separation, even divorce. Such have no love, genuine intimacy, and forward-moving romance.
Still, it goes down to how you and your partner talk. If they still confess their love, it’s up to you to say yay or nay. Whichever option you go for, ensure that you protect your mind, body, and spirit.
Men cheat more, but women are catching on. So, whether you’re Jessica or Shawn, always take care of yourself and look out for a cheating partner. Also, spend more time knowing the other person before bringing them into your life, especially sexually.
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